Helping Your Child Stop Bedwetting and Daytime Accidents With Hypnotherapy
Is your child a big kid who has accidents? Here's your solution.
What causes daytime accidents in potty-trained kids? You’d think it would be as simple as you feel the urge to go, you intentionally go to the bathroom, right? After all, you’re old enough now to know better and you were potty trained.
It’s a little more complex than that underneath for a child. But once you understand the complexity, the solution is simple. The solution so simple, that I’ve helped kids in 20 minutes quit having accidents.
Its July 2023, I open my consultation scheduling to find a mom who’s son would not stop wetting the bed at night. He’s of age, he know’s better, but just could not force himself to stop.
Mom is frustrated because she doesn’t have time to keep doing extra loads of laundry, changing sheets everyday, and checking to make sure he’s doing what he needs to do.
She’s being the best mom she can be, she’s intentional, she even talked to the pediatrician.
And their conversation goes something like this:
“Mom:
I'm just really concerned… my son is 8, and he still wets the bed almost every night. Shouldn’t he have grown out of this by now?
Pediatrician:
It is normal for older kids to have bladder accidents — bedwetting at this age is more common than most people think. It's called nocturnal enuresis, and in many cases, it's not due to laziness or behavior. Often, it’s related to a delay in how the bladder and nervous system are maturing.
Mom:
So… it's still physical?
Pediatrician:
Partially, yes. But there can also be emotional or stress-related components. Has anything changed at home or school recently?
Mom:
No not that I’m aware of, they seem like a normal kid”
She begins to ask herself, “Where in their life could their son be unhappy? Wouldn’t he say something if he was unhappy? Surely I’m not a bad parent? Maybe he’s getting bullied?”
This moment, this contemplation is exactly where you find the solution, but not in the way you think it does.
You have this question about the root of your child’s problem so you go to Google.
You might ask“What does bedwetting mean?” or “how to stop my child bedwetting”?
Eventually Google tells you that this is a behavior can shift with the help of hypnotherapy.
So you call your local hypnotherapist because maybe they can hypnotize your kid into quitting if it’s just a behavior.
Yes, I can hypnotize your kid into stop having accidents, but because I asked exactly what you ask, with a slightly different twist.
Ever since working with kids in July 2023, I have come to understand kids have accidents because they have a suppressed emotion that they cannot express. Something in their external world has pulled their power away, leaving the child feel powerless and vulnerable.
I mean think about it, they cannot control their bladder, their own body, because they don’t believe they have the power to. Sometimes it’s literal, sometimes they don’t know they can speak up. And before you ask, no, I have not worked with any cases involving CPS, thankfully.
The cases I have worked with involved children who did not feel as though they could speak up. If the child does not believe they can speak up, they feel disempowered. The feeling of disempowerment is the real culprit for the accidents.
Unfortunately, no matter how well we try to parent,
that disempowerment is sometimes caused by us, the parent.
I know, you try to keep a safe space for your child to speak up, but sometimes they just feel hesitant because that one thing you do that makes them feel big emotions.
Kids are not as articulate with their emotions so sometimes sad gets mistaken for unsafe just because it feels intense. Their brain is only focused on the intensity of the emotion, they don’t know how to articulate the context. If they feel sad, they feel unsafe and won’t speak up because they only notice the intensity from the sadness.
Hypnotherapy helps fill in the context by being an outside party. This is especially helpful when parents are unknowingly contributing to the problem. The hypnotherapist can then be a family mediator to help the child and parents find a happy medium.
Ultimately It comes down to this:
When a child has a suppressed emotion, whether love, sadness, anger, frustration, shame, they are out of their power.
Only when the child is in their power will they find the power to control their own bladder. With the help of a hypnotherapist, they can find that power.
However, it is the job of the parents to help their child maintain their power.
Parents can help their child maintain personal power by shifting their own behavior if they are the problem.
And if you feel resistance around the idea of being the problem, just know that the problem truly isn’t personal sometimes.
One case for example, a child simply did not know how to express his sadness that his mom didn’t tuck him in at night. She tucked in his sister, why not him? He missed her. So the solution was to create a schedule for mom and dad to tuck him in.
With that feeling of empowerment, I associated him to the bathroom. If he says his superpower word after he uses the bathroom, he’s going to feel as good as when his mom tucks him in. Now, he associates using the bathroom with being in his power and with his power, he chooses to use the bathroom appropriately.
This leads to the question, how do I get the child to tell me what’s wrong so the bed wetting can end?
I hypnotize them of course! I joke… kind of.
I help the child use their imagination by seeing the problem out side of themself using a friend, like a toy. So now they are no longer a child who feels shame for having accidents. Instead they are a superhero helping a friend not have any more accidents because he understands why that friend is having an accident.
And as a superhero, doctor, mechanic, they help their friend. They can do this because friend is an extension of themself, of their own imagination. And because they identify with friend, they identify with the solution.
That solution makes them feel so good! They feel so good, it puts them back in their power. But it get’s better! They can say a special word that gives them the same wonderful feeling that they can say every time they use the bathroom or towards whatever they may feel fear towards.
Now they have a resource that no one can ever take away from them. This anchors them into their power even more, making them even more inclined to to use their power to use the bathroom.
You see this isn’t about hypnotizing a child into changing their behavior. This is about understanding where the child feels disempowered.